We have to write an "essay" (250-word-paragraph) for our Intro to Engineering course, and one of the guidelines was "Don't be trite." I consequently looked up "trite" in the dictionary:
"(of a remark, opinion, or idea) overused and consequently of little import; lacking originality or freshness."
Also, this blog entry probably isn't interesting for other people, it's one of those blog-journal type entries, as opposed to blog-interesting stuff type entries.
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My roommate is upset about something, boy troubles, but I don't want to be nosy and ask her (I just overheard her and my other roommate talking.) I don't seem to have boy troubles, do I?
I think my set of boy troubles are that in a relationship, I'm always "the one who cares less." I know that some people - my roommate for instance - would probably find this refreshing. But I think it would be nice to be the one who cares a little more, or ideally exactly the same amount.
I had a boyfriend over the summer (let's call him S.) who's really nice, but liked me more than I liked him. Hanging out with him was enjoyable and he was a really nice person to be around. Now we're in an "open relationship" because I moved away, but it's a commonly known and repeatedly proven fact that long distance relationships do not work out. Even if they are called "open relationships" on facebook.
I moved here and met a whole new set of friends (thanks to frosh week, and having friends who are in residence.) There is no lack of guys in engineering.
I've been keeping in touch with S. through facebook messages, and yesterday he sent me a poem he'd wrote.
You are my everything
my breath, my soul, my fire.
the way you move, the way you sing
without you i feel incomplete.
waiting again for the day that we'll meet
to hold you in my arms
kisses so tender sweet.
This is much better than any poem I could make, but it sounds a little trite. It's really sweet, but the only problem is I don't feel as strongly about him.
So now I feel like I owe him something. By "something" I mean that I should feel impatient to see him again. Which I don't (any more than my other friends K, L, A, etc.) because I'm so caught up in my life here. The people I see from day to day are real, and everyone else is less immediate.
So obviously I don't like him enough to spend my precious time missing him. Also I've met another boy who I like as a friend, but may want to get to know better. Or alternatively, another option is that I like being single. That's fun too. Whatever works out.
When it starts to seem like I have to feel something in order to be a good girlfriend, then what? Oh, hang on a second while I rearrange the neurons in my brain to send the correct signals so that I can be emotionally dependent on you?
I am not your everything. That's more responsibility than I want, thank you very much.
PS: hang on a second, I think my other roommate is now upset about boy troubles. This all goes over my head.